‘I Blame Myself For Not Making A Perfect Marriage’ – Caroline Danjuma Speaks On Divorce
Nollywood actress Caroline Hutchings, formerly known as Caroline Danjuma, has spoken about her failed marriage to ex-husband, Musa Danjuma.
The mother of three revealed via her Instagram page that her divorce made her feel like a failure.
The actress stated that she constantly blamed herself for the mistakes they both made until she began a self discovery journey.
She said when she began to heal, the realization that she was not a failure dawned on her and the journey to peace and healing began.
She wrote: “I blamed myself for not making a perfect marriage , I blamed my self for both faults of ours until I started healing then I knew I was not a failure. I prayed to God for assistance most importantly to forgive my self and him.
“Rather than hate the outcome of what was , I chose love and peace of mind for what is . We both ain’t perfect and that is what makes us human . I dealt with the hurtful words from friends and strangers , the stigma and constant mockery without knowledge of what truly happened .
“God whispered I am with you and that was it . My journey to finding me began and I never looked back . I came , I saw , I conquered , most importantly I have found my lost identity .
“Healed , restored , unprovoked, loving and blessed ..#howcarolynagothergrooveback.. thanks to @lanreolusola who spoke through the words in the Bible to help me find my way .
“Some of us are better off as friends than lovers . It is ok to see a professional counselor , you ain’t mad you just need clarification .It is ok to fail and rise again . Let God lead you . No hate but love always . Accept your faults forgive the other and move on in peace.
“This is my first time talking about my divorce , not an easy journey ,most times very painful moments especially if you are a perfectionist and kids are involved . Kill the hate it will only ruin you . If you are wondering how you will pick up financially trust me you will ,just stay focused and determined . Love without regrets.”