A student of the Federal Polytechnic in Bida, Bida Niger State has narrated an awful story of how her mother was maltreated by her husband to the extent of bitten off her ears.
The young lady who goes by the name Agatha told newsmen that her mother Mrs Dorcas Uange had lost one of her ears after one Mr Aduku Sunny White, her husband who is a resident of Suleja Niger state bites it off during a family meeting.
Agatha reported that the incident happened at Kaduna road back of Zuma barracks in Suleja, Niger state on August 28, 2020.
Narrating the awful event, the young lady revealed that her stepfather, Mr Aduku had been married to her mother for over 17 years but that their marriage was never a smooth one as the man always abuse her mother even before his other wives. She revealed that her mother who is the third wife of Mr. Aduku had three children already in their relationship.
Agatha noted that her mother had her from a previous relationship before she got married to Mr Aduku who happened to be a traditionalist. From her narration, Mr Aduku had barred her mother from working, compelled her to become a fulltime housewife since he married her, also subjecting her to emotional abuse, insulting her at the slightest opportunity irrespective of where they find themselves.
Agatha told newsmen that her mother had remained in the relationship despite all the sadness and pain her husband allegedly caused her. According to her, she was at a point asked to go stay with her stepfather’s brother because the man never wanted her in his house.
Speaking about the event that led to the bitting of the ear, Agatha reports that after a recent quarrel they had together, Mr. Aduku called his brother and instructed him to throw her out of his house and threatened to sever his relationship with his brother if he refused to do so.
She said ”My mum and my stepfather had some issues and so I went to stay with the brother who is a pastor living in town. He called the brother and asked the brother to send me out of his house and that if he still wants to remain his brother, he should chase me out of the house. The brother had no option, he gave me some money and asked me to leave.”
“When my mother heard that my stepfather asked his brother to send me away from his house, she said she cannot sleep in his own house and be eating while she doesn’t know where I was. She had to leave the house so she can look for me. She had other children with him so she left them with him so she can look for me.
“Meanwhile, I looked for a one-room apartment at the Dantata area. My mum said she would come and join me. When she told my stepfather that she was going to look for me, he told her that if she goes out, she should never come back into his house. My mum said yes it is better, she will go.”
She narrates further, “When she came to meet me, she started looking for work because for the past 17 years they have been married, he stopped her from working and going to school. He just wants her to sit at home doing nothing and if she asks him for money, he will insult her even in the presence of people.”
She noted that the man began calling everyone in their family, accusing her of packing out of his house, abandoning their three children with him.
According to Agatha, Mr Aduku someday got so enraged that he took her photo and that of her mother’s, did a voice note claiming they were both lesbians and that they absconded from his house to practise lesbianism.
Agatha claimed he posted the voice note with their photos on his Whatsapp status and it was seen by many people who downloaded it and started sharing it.
She said, ”He took our picture, did voice note and wrote some things, claiming that we were Lesbians. He alleged that I initiated my mother into Lesbianism. He posted it on Whatsapp, looked for my friends and schoolmates and shared it.”
She, however, noted that she filed a complaint at the Sabon Wuse divisional police station with the fear that her institution might expel her if they get to know of the false accusation.
”We reported the case. The police went to his house, arrested him and brought him to the station. When the police asked for evidence to prove the allegation of lesbianism, he started pleading, saying he ws angry when he made the allegation. He told the police that we were not lesbians and that he was annoyed and that is why he was just looking for a way to spoil my image.” she said.
Agatha said after much pleading, she asked the police to release him and withdrew the case only on grounds that he does another voice note where he would debunk the allegations of lesbianism. She said he agreed, did the voice note, and published it on his Whatsapp status.
Agatha said her stepfather called her mother’s people to inform them that they need to ensure that their sister returns back to his house so she can take care of their three children as his other wife cannot do that. She said her mum spoke with her family and insisted that she will only return back to his house if he will allow her go back to school and start working..
”My mother said before she will go back to his house, she wants to go back to school, have a job where she will leave the house in the morning and come back in the evening and that he should rent a house for her outside because when she was in the house, he will abuse her morning, afternoon and night, accusing her of stealing. He never trusts my mother. Whenever he is eating and his phone rings, he will ask his other wife to come and seat near his food as he doesn’t trust my mother.” she added.
She explained further that her mother’s relative came from the village to Suleja to see if they could settle their feud.
According to her, at the meeting, her stepfather started calling her mother a prostitute. According to her, the older siblings got infuriated by his action and insisted they were going to leave with their sister as they came there to resolve their issues and not create more.
”We were about leaving when he drew my mother back with so much force. She fell on the chair and he jumped on her. He had his mouth on her ears. He bit off the complete ear and spat it on the floor. With tension and fear, we started crying and shouting. He disappeared immediately.” she said.
“We ran to the nearest hospital in Kerife to see if they would be able to attach the ear back. When we got there, the staff said this was beyond what they can handle. They referred us to Gwagwalada. This was around past 10pm already.
I went out crying to look for a car that will carry us to Gwagwalada. I saw one man who said it was too late for him to go to Gwagwalada but that he would be able to take us to Suleja hospital but that we will have to pay him. I said no problem. He drove us there, we paid him but the hospital said they could not treat her because he uprooted the ear completely.”
She noted that the hospital they first visited referred them to another hospital and also advised them to ensure they place the detached ear inside iceblock so that it would not die. She said there was nowhere they could get ice block and so they got ice sachet water, placed the detached ear in between the sachet water, and tied it in nylon as they continued their search for help.
”On getting to the new hospital, they told us that the doctor wasn’t on sit until tomorrow morning. We cried like we were not going to cry in this life again. Since it was an emergency, we said let us try another hospital. This was few minutes past 11pm. We came out of the hospital, there was no car going to town.
“We saw one man, we begged him to carry us. We didn’t even tell the man that we didn’t have transport again because we knew he would not carry us. We said take us to one hospital that is close to my working place.
“On getting there, I told my people to take my mother inside while I started begging the driver. I explained to him that we were not having any money on us and that if had told him, he would not have carried us. The man said there is no problem and left us alone.
“Getting into the hospital, the doctor said he cannot sew the ear back since it was completely uprooted and that the ear was already dead. He said what he can just do is to treat the face of the wound, give her some injections and pain relief and just seal it up. We didn’t have any other thing to do than to bury the dead ear.”
Agatha said she reported the matter to the police who invited her stepfather. He has been arraigned before a Sharia court in the state but Agatha says she is not convinced her mother will get justice with the way the court is handling the matter. She says her stepfather has been released by the police as they claim he cannot be detained for more than 24 hours.
She noted that her mother had visited the National Human Rights Commission in Abuja on Tuesday, September 1 but was asked to make their complaint in writing and that there were several other persons before them who need to be attended to. She is seeking justice for her mum.